For all of you out there with schoolchildren in your life or if you are of the age when you and the better half are about to start cranking out potentials, let me speak for a moment about what kind of relationships you should pay attention to.

I am in the process of getting my teaching license, and I take teaching very seriously because I am faced with all sorts of realities that indicate that the education system is collapsing.  I don't want to teach.  I fucking hate kids.  I feel like I HAVE to teach because I can't accept allowing someone incompetent to be responsible for something so important.  What I hate more than kids are ignorant fucking grownups.  Ignorant we can fix, but we gotta get at it early

Now, this business in Brooklyn...  I have nothing against two young, attractive (or unattractive) females enjoying each other in the blossoming of their femininity.  I have seen the internet and it was right, it is hot.  That said, male or female, you can't go muff diving at school.  You can't tickle the pickle.  You can't round second charging for third.  You can't fucking take sex to school.  Not only that, if you have kids or are getting ready to have kids in school, you need to get to know the teachers, and not just for this kind of shit.  If you know of a teacher that is on Facebook with a student, or has traded cell numbers with a student, or has exchanged non-school related email addresses with a student, it is wildly inappropriate.  The problem is, it happens all the damn time.  Is all of that stuff sexual?  No, certainly not.  Regardless of that, the relationship of teacher student is monumentally influential and is damn near sacred.  Any exploitation of that, or miscommunication within that, runs the risk of being horrifically destructive.  Not only should you be aware of that, your child's instructors should and they should have a healthy respect for it.  Some teachers will cry, "I mean no harm!"  They probably don't, but they are missing the fucking point.  For some teachers, the desire to be liked and thought of kindly by their students can be outrageously motivating, but this person has woefully lost their direction.  For the teacher, at the most base level, the relationship must be one of instructor to pupil.  It can diverge to different places, yes, but it must remain essentially that.  If it even brushes the area of "friend" it is broken.  The teacher can like a student, they can love their students, but they must remain students or the system will break down and the student will be injured.  If you are a friend with a student, and they need to be pushed, will they respond?  If I walked into Cobra's house and he said, "Paine, don't pee on that fern," I might just piss on his house plants to aggravate him and he calls me enough of a friend to put me in his wedding.  What if the teacher sees that a student needs to be pushed harder or disciplined and they cannot because they fear it may threaten a friendly relationship?  In college, fuck it, if you have a hot professor and you think you can take a run at her go get it, we're all grown ups, lay pipe.  In elementary, junior high, or high school it is a different place and the relationship of kohi to sempi must always remain intact because the student will always be the one to suffer most.  For a teacher, the absolute focus of their professional lives must be the health and welfare of their students and getting the best from every student that they can, anything less is absolutely unacceptable.  The teachers I have observed who seek "friendship" with their students have all been miserably incompetent. 

To punctuate this with an anecdote I will tell a story.  Earlier in the year I was a grad student in an undergraduate class about law and ethics in the classroom at Indiana University.  In a class of about 190 kids, the teacher asked if any of the students had known of a romantic relationship between a student and a teacher.  Only eight did not raise their hands.  If half of those people were telling a lie it is still too fucking many.   

Now, onto the sports talk.   

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